Similar to a remote controlled Auto Alarm System using a FOB-type transmitter.What exactly do you mean when you say that you want the relay to be remote controlled?
I bought 3 commercial grade "fob" devices and all were pretty bad. I wonder if you might be better off piecing your build together with a commercial grade fob unit controlling a more robust marine relay that you purchase and install separately.Similar to a remote controlled Auto Alarm System using a FOB-type transmitter.
Most of the Amazon-grade electrical components have a high failure rate in our high ambient temps (thus the use of Marine Grade components).